It is not uncommon for mothers to get shamed for the way the bring up their babies. From the common woman to celebrities like Chrissy Teigen, mommy-shaming is experienced by a huge chunk of females. But were you aware that even dad-shaming occurs and it too, has an impact on the parent? A recent poll digs into daddy-shaming and how it affects male parents.
What Does This New Study Reveal?
A new study carried out by the University of Michigan has found that daddy shaming is also a thing and that it discourages about 1 in 5 fathers from participating in parenting. This national poll found that criticism made fathers doubt themselves and their parenting choices in matters as basic as playing with their babies or feeding them.
About half of the fathers said that they reacted to this criticism positively; 49% said that they changed aspects of their parenting to make it better. However, 40% of fathers said that their reaction was negative. These fathers felt less confident about their parenting skills and the criticism made them feel discouraged when it came to their involvement in their child’s upbringing.
Moreover, 43% of the fathers polled as part of this C.S. Mott Children’s Hospital National Poll on Children’s Health said that daddy-shaming is unfair most of the times. This report polled 713 male parents of children in the age bracket of 0-13 years. It is important to note that all parents have different parenting styles and someone’s different ways don’t necessarily mean that he is incorrect in applying them.
The poll found that about two-thirds of the fathers felt criticized regarding the way they disciplined their children. Moreover, 2 in 5 dads said that the diet and nutrition category was what they felt criticized about. They mentioned that they were criticized for what they fed their children. A third of the fathers polled said that they were judged for not giving enough attention to their kids while a quarter said that they were told that their playing methods with their children were too rough.
It was also found that 24% of fathers were judged for their child’s sleep, 23% for their appearance, and 19% for their safety. Regarding who criticizes fathers most, 44% said that it was the other parent, 24% said it was granddads and 9% said it was friends. While 9 in 10 fathers said that most dads did a good job, 11% felt that teachers thought they weren’t knowledgeable about parenting.
Furthermore, 12% felt that doctors and nurses also thought the same way. 23% of the fathers also said that they felt that they weren’t included in their children’s activities. In this regard, it is necessary to stop shaming fathers for the way they interact with their children because no matter how subtle such actions, they can leave an influence. The poll’s co-director, Sarah Clark said, “Even subtle forms of disparagement can undercut fathers’ confidence or send the message that they are less important to their child’s well-being.”